Our last day in NanNing

We couldn't post to the blog yesterday for some reason so today we will have to post double photos. We were able to post to the Yahoo group.

Yesterday we went to the Chinese consulate and the notary. That means we have officially adopted Brinley as our daughter. As far as China is concerned, she is ours! :) It all went very smoothly and quickly.

Today we went and did a bit of sight-seeing with our guide Roger. We went to Green Mountain Park. It was beautiful! We saw a Buddhist temple where the monks were having a prayer ceremony and Brice and Marty climbed up in a huge tower with Roger. Brice said his legs felt like noodles when he came back down. We also went to eat at a very nice restaurant where they had singing and dancing. We all enjoyed it very much and the food was very yummy! We bought a strand of pearls for Brinley.

At the People's Park, we walked around and you could tell that some people approved of us having Brinley and others most definitely did not. Most of the people here are so nice! There are people doing Tai Chi, singing and playing musical instruments. There is a little amusement park there and many places to eat. It is a very peaceful and tranquil place in the middle of a huge city.

Brinley is a little character. She is so funny. She'll give me the sweetest smile and then look at Brice and give him a little smirk. She let Marty carry her around at the pearl market and she calls him "Dada".

The picture of Brice beside the television screen was from our looooooooooong flight over here on the plane. We were flying directly over the North Pole when I took this picture of him.

Thank you for all of the emails! Vallie, Brice was really glad to hear from one of his CA friends.
We leave in the morning at 7 to get on the train to travel to Guilin. This is the town Brinley is from. It is known as China's most beautiful city. We will be visiting her orphanage Friday.

Gotcha!

Hooray!!!!!! GOTCHA - BRINLEY IS IN THE HOUSE!

This is Marty, posting for Sharon who is brushing Brinley's hair after her bath. Gotcha day went very well. Thank goodness for Cheeerios! Brinley was a little uneasy about going to Sharon, but after a few Cheerios all was good. She is now a "mama's girl". She goes to Sharon with no problems and hasn't cried at all. She has played with all of us.

She will fit right in at our house. She tried to use the TV remote as a phone so Brice gave her an old cell phone he brought along. She put it right up to her ear and pretended to talk. She even knows how to work the flip. Kristen, I guess you can train another "Welcome Specialist".

She acts like she has a cold so Sharon is giving her some of the medicine we brought.

So far everything is going very smooth. We were both very nervous right before Roger came by to pick us up, but not any more. She seems right at home with us and is playing with the cell phone again. That's my girl!

Sharon is calling Kristen - it's 5:43AM at home!

Sharon is much better "blog poster" than I am, so I'll finish and post some pictures.

Marty

HERE WE GO!!!!

Stay tuned!!!! We're about to leave to get Brinley!!!!!! The three of us are sitting here excited and nervous all at once. Well, Marty and I are.....Brice is cool about all of it.

Watch out, Brinley!!!
HERE WE COME!!!!!

Lord, please help Brinley to have an easy transition. :)

Sharon

Site seeing in Nanning

These are some sites we saw today around the hotel in Nanning. We walked down the street to the Peoples Park. It's a beautiful park with a lake, paved walkways, paddle boats, children's rides, and vendors. It was a nice quiet walk. We passed a lot a local shops along the street. Brice bought a pen and a pad to keep his travel notes in.

We ate lunch in the food court next door to the hotel. The food was good and quite inexpensive. The three of us had lunch for less than $10. Brice had a plate of spaghetti and we had sweet and sour spare ribs.

We are back in the room now getting ready to meet Roger, our guide, and go get Brinley!

We are in NanNing!

Ni Hao from NanNing!
We finally made it to NanNing this evening. The flight was only delayed by a few minutes and it was relatively good except that the skies in NanNing were very overcast so we had to go through a LOT of cloud cover before landing. I was pretty nervous about it. Flying is not my favorite thing to do!
When we arrived in NanNing we met our guide Roger. He is the same guide Rachelle and Melissa had when they were here last week. He doesn't know yet if he will be our guide the entire time we are here. He is very nice and very easy to understand. He asks a lot of questions but he also gives lots of information and he is very friendly. He said he has a son who is in first grade. He asked us to take a package to his niece in Guilin when we go there because that is where he is from.
Roger said we will get Brinley tomorrow at 4:30. When we arrived and walked into the hotel room, we found a crib waiting for her. So, this time tomorrow night we will be trying to soothe a very scared little girl. Please keep us in your prayers!
Tonight we ate at the Garden Restaurant here in the Majestic Hotel. We ate club sandwiches and Brice ordered a hamburger. :) Yep.....I just wasn't in the mood for eel spaghetti or edible fungus.
Marty is going to add some pictures in the morning. We are all very tired. In fact, Brice was so tired that he fell asleep in the restaurant. Everyone thought he was very cute. All of the young girls grin at him and say "Hello Boy". Rogers says Brice will make many friends while he is here. :)
I hope I'm not too excited to sleep tonight. I still can't believe that tomorrow we will have our daughter and siser! :)

Sharon

Brice's Blog

Brice has his own blog if you would like to read the messages he types and see the pictures he is taking with his camera.
http://hellofrombrice.blogspot.com/

Grits In Beijing!

Our night in the Beijing International Airport Hotel was pretty good. We have three twin beds in our room and the beds are really hard but I think we were so tired that it really didn't matter! The hotel seems to be old but it is clean so we are very pleased with our stay.
We brought some food with us just in case something like this happened so this morning Marty and Brice enjoyed Quaker Instant Grits with redeye gravy and I had some instant oatmeal. We all enjoyed a nice, hot cup of cappucino, too! Ahhhhhh, the joys of traveling with grits! LOL

Brice is going to tell me what to type:
Ms. Rebekkah, I hope the class was not too wild Friday without me. (He is laughing like crazy!) We've seen atleast 10 planes take off this morning. Gabe, don' t have too much fun without me! Sissy, I miss you and Josh! Hope you are having a good time. Keith, I miss you, too and will bring you some cool stuff. We might bring you a Coke can for your room. It is cool!

To our PBC family: Please keep praying for us! So far, so good! God is watching over us and all is well! Y'all take care of Lola for us and Josh, too when he comes home Saturday. We love all of you!

Marty, Sharon & Brice

We are in China!

Just wanted to let everyone know that we are here. I posted on the alternate website so if you dont mind, please click over there to see our message. I am awfully tired!

Sharon

Brinley Elizabeth WeiYa: NEW PHOTOS OF BRINLEY!!!!

Brinley Elizabeth WeiYa: NEW PHOTOS OF BRINLEY!!!!?

NEW PHOTOS OF BRINLEY!!!!

Today we were blessed with new photos of Brinley!!! What an awesome and totally unexpected gift! These were sent to us from the wonderful Half The Sky organization! :) They came in the mail today! If they'd come tomorrow we wouldn't have received them until we return from our trip! Half The Sky runs a preschool in the Guilin SWI. We have heard so many fabulous things about Half The Sky and we are so very thankful to all of the people who work so hard to make it possible for children like Brinley to attend preschool and have so much love in their lives!
***You can be a Half The Sky sponsor and you will get updates on the child you are helping every 3 months.....makes a wonderful Christmas gift for the person who has everything! ;) Marty & I recently signed up to be Half The Sky sponsors and we are waiting to receive the information on the child we will be sponsoring. Pay It Forward***

Oh my! What a beautiful child! I already love her every bit as much as our other four children. Some people may question us putting her cleft pictures on here but to us she is simply Brinley...no matter what. If she hadn't had cl/cp, we may have never become her parents since we found her on a list for special needs children. It is our hope that other people will look at her photos and see how perfectly wonderful she is before and after her surgery. We are amazed and thankful when we look at her earliest photos. What a miracle her surgery was! Look at what an amazing change in her! There are so many cleft affected children who need this life-changing surgery. You can help by making even the smallest contribution to Love Without Boundaries. http://www.lovewithoutboundaries.com .

We are all packed and ready to make our way to China tomorrow morning! It's hard to believe that the day has finally come! Please keep us in your prayers!!! :)

PLEASE NOTE ALTERNATE SITE!!!

We may not be able to post to this blog from China. We have an alternate site set up if this happens. Please go there to check for new information and photos if you don't find any news here.

This is the link: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/brinley/ Just click on it and it will take you there. This is a Yahoo group. You'll need to click on the box that says "Join This Group" and follow the simple instructions. Please feel free to post messages to us and to our other friends!

We are ready to go!!!
Please keep us in your prayers!
Sharon

A special thank you to our friends!

**I originally created this post back in July but today I decided to update it because there are so many more people that I feel like I need to thank!**

Today I've been thinking about all of our friends and relatives who are so happy for us and so very supportive. Last night we had a church from West Virginia's mission team over to play in our pool. Our preacher was with them and he told everyone about Brinley. They were all so happy for us....and for Brinley. So many people have been so kind and full of love from the start about Brinley.

*Alyssa F....always ready to listen to any news about Brinley and so happy for us!

*Mrs. Velma....so full of smiles and congratulations when I shared our news with her and always ready to notarize Brinley's papers!

*Mrs. Diane I....thank you so much for your support! You are one in a million!

*Lindsey....listened to me talk about China and babies the entire time she was pregnant with sweet little Anna and wrote the most wonderful reference letter for us.

* Lori Flake....happy, happy, happy for us! Our girls will play together in the church nursery! :)

*Preacher Judy....our prayer warrior and support from the very beginning! We can never, ever thank you enough for all of your advice, support and prayers!

*DEE (my mom)....the proudest granny in the world! So eager to have this new little person to spoil rotten!

*Annette I...so happy for us! Such a sweet friend!

*Mrs. Millie at Calhoun Academy....gave us the "green light" to take Brice out of school so that he can travel with us to China.

*Mrs. Tommie Sue....sooooooo happy for us!!!

*Mrs. Harriet C...so encouraging to us!!

*Rachelle....my newest bestest friend! What would I ever do without the supportive emails and prayers from this person I have never met?

*VJ....my fingerprintin' partner! So much helpful information through this paperchase maze! Thank you, VJ!

*"Grandma Bettie"...thank you for being "Grandma" to Josh, Kristen, Keith, Brice and Brinley! We love you!

*Aunt Mae, Uncle Bill and B'linda.........you are all so wonderful and we just love all of you so much! Thank you for loving Brinley!

*Rebekkah B. (Brice's teacher).....the best second grade teacher in the entire world! Hoping she'll stay at Calhoun Academy and teach Brinley, too! :)

*Donna Lott....supportive from the beginning and always there for us!

*Heather H....mama of the beautiful Leila! Thank you for always being there to listen! Hoping that someday we can sit and watch Brinley and Leila play together!

*My LateAugustDTC family! I love each and every one of you! I can't thank you girls enough for always being there through the highs and lows of this journey! We are all finally making it to the end of this phase! Some of us have already brought our little one home, some of us are in China now and some of us are getting ready to go or are waiting on our TA.......all of you are so special! I hope we will all stay in touch after we've all returned from China!!!

*Troy & Beth Jacob......Troy & Beth are also adoptive parents. When I was wondering how on earth people deal with special needs children, Troy was posting to the Children's House International group about his beautiful daughter Shiloh. He unknowingly let me know that cleft lip and palate was something we could deal with. If he hadn't shared so much from his heart, I don't know if I ever would have truly believed that cleft lip and palate could be so easy to deal with. Thank you, Troy & Beth for sharing Shiloh's story!

*Sandi P....mama of the beautiful Sabra! Thank you for sharing her sweet photos with me! She is so special! I hope we can get together someday so that Sabra and Brinley can play!

*LeeAnn M....how many questions can one person ask about an SWI? If you want to know the answer to this question, you can ask LeeAnn because I am sure I must have pushed the limit by now! LOL LeeAnn is above and beyond special and will always have a very special place in my heart for her kindness! Thank you, LeeAnn!

*Nona M....thank you for sharing so much of your information with us! I feel like we are better prepared for the trip thanks to you and your helpful info!

*Darlene & Lulu......thank you for the pictures of Brinley in the SWI! Those photos are invaluable to us!!!

*Nina....this lady gave me so much hope and inspiration when we first started talking about adoption! Nina, I can never thank you enough for your prayers and talks! You are truly an angel!

*Beth E....mom of the beautiful Mei Mei and Liza! Thank you for caring! Your girls are so sweet! I hope that Brinley will have many play dates with them in the future!

*Tina P....thank you for being my friend and thank you for caring so much! You and Bud are so special to us!

* "Lola"....my baby girl....my buddy....my confidante....thank you for being such a wonderful daughter. Someday you'll be making your own trip to China to bring home my grandbaby! You have blessed my life in more ways than I could ever count! I love you!

* "Joshie"....my oldest baby boy....my techno wizard! I miss you so much! How did you grow up so quickly??? I'm so glad you will be home for Christmas! I am so very proud of you! I love you!

* "Wubbie"....my middle baby boy....for almost 3 years we have been a family and you have blessed my life and Josh and Kristen and Brice's lives so much! You are going to be an EXCELLENT big brother to Brinley! Thank you for making me laugh! I am so proud of you!!!! I love you!

* "Tootie"....my baby boy....thank you for just being "The Brice Man". I love you soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much and I am soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo proud of you!!!!!

*Marty.....today is the day we met 5 years ago. The time has gone so quickly and yet it seems like we have always been together. You are such an awesome husband and a wonderful daddy! My life has been so very blessed each and every day that you have been a part of it. Thank you for opening your heart to all of us......and to Brinley! I know that she is going to have you wrapped around her little finger and she will definitely be a Daddy's girl just like her sissy! I love you......you still amaze me!

So many good friends....I know I missed a LOT of people with this little list....everyone is so special! Our "families" at Providence Baptist Church and Calhoun Academy are such a blessing to us! My online friends have truly amazed me with their caring and compassion!

~Sharon

Brinley's Room

We finally took some pictures of Brinley's room. I decided not to go with the Raggedy Ann & Andy theme. Instead, it is "The Princess & The Frog"!

I found this cute, cute print of an Asian princess holding a frog prince and I just knew that this would be the theme for Brinley's new room. I got the print on eBay so if any of you other adoptin' mamas are looking for something like this, just let me know and I will tell you who the seller was.

***Wow! Everyone loves this print! Since we are leaving for China soon, I'll just post a link to the eBay seller here. http://stores.ebay.com/KidsWallArtOnline They have a lot of really cute prints and the shipping was very quick!
BTW, Target has the cutest nightlight that matches this print! It is the frog prince. You'll find it over in the section where the bedding is and it is one of those that turns on and off by itself. You can buy it at www.target.com , too. ***

It says it's a Fairy PRINCESS but it looks like a prince to me!

This chiffarobe was Marty's grandmother's. It was out in a storage shed when we moved here and it was in really bad shape so he took it up to his shop and refinishd it for Brinley's room. I love it! He did a wonderful job on it!
The Raggedy Ann sitting so quietly on top of the chiffarobe was made for Brinley by my dear friend Rachelle. We will always treasure this sweet doll! (Thank you again, Auntie Rachelle!)

We still have more work to do in here but atleast we've managed to get this much of it finished! We've ordered some things for the room that haven't come in yet.

Brice's New Room

Just have to take a minute to let Brice show off his new room. The room Brinley will be in was his and he moved into Josh's old room when Josh moved to NC to attend college for the next 3 years.














BEFORE















DURING















AFTER!!! Marty built the bunkbeds and the shelf!


Eagle Print



















Motorcycle Poster

















Wallpaper

Brice is VERY proud of his new room!













We are still working on Keith's! It is going to be really cool, too!

OUR SCHEDULE

Not much longer until we leave!

As far as we know, we'll be able to email daily. If not, we will contact Kristen and Josh and they will post to let everyone know that we are doing okay. We will be 13 hours ahead of you.

We will miss all of you very much and Lord willing (and not too much snow in Beijing or Newark, NJ on our return) we will see you at church on Christmas Day with our newest family member Brinley Elizabeth!

Our schedule:
12/9-12/10: Leave Columbia 7:05am, fly to Newark, NJ then on to Beijing and end in NanNing. Staying at Majestic Hotel, Nanning
12/11: Tour Green Mountain Park and attend Lunch Theatre
12/12: ***WE GET BRINLEY!!!!!***
12/13: Civil Affairs Appt. Apply for Brinley's Chinese Passport
12/14: Free Day (Christmas Shopping!)
12/15: Travel from NanNing to GuiLin by train...5 hour ride through the
countryside. Staying at the Bravo Hotel.
12/16: Visit Brinley's orphanage in the afternoon.
12/17: Tour of Seven Star Park then fly from GuiLin to Guangzhou (formerly known as Canton) Staying at the White Swan Hotel on Shaiman Island.
12/18: Pearl River Dinner Cruise with other families adopting through our agency
12/19: Brinley's Medical Exam
12/20: Free Day! (More Christmas Shopping!)
12/21: U.S. Consulate Appointment for Brinley at 9am
12/22: Receive Brinley's travel Visa
12/23: Coming home!!! Arrive 9:20pm in Columbia!
Continental Airlines Flight 3227

Please remember us in your prayers as we travel and bring our daughter into our family. Please pray for Brinley, that she will know in her little heart that we are her mommy and daddy and that her transition will go as easily as possible.

Much love to all of you!
Sharon & Marty

Baby Shower!

Donna Lott, Lola and some of the women in our church had a very special baby shower for us on November 27. We are so blessed to have so many wonderful, caring friends!



(I didn't know Donna could yell so loud until I called her and told her we had our TA! :) Donna is our pastor's wife and she has been such a wonderful friend and support through these months of adoption! She is also my Christian concert buddy! A couple of weeks ago we went to see Casting Crowns with our daughters. It was great!)

Happy Thanksgiving!!!

We had a wonderful Thanksgiving with our families today! My mom, Aunt Mae, Uncle Bill and cousin Belinda and my mother-in-law and father-in-law were all here at our house for dinner!
My mom did most of the cooking and it was YUMMY!!! Aunt Mae's potatoe salad is always THE BEST and I ate waaaay too much! LOL My mother-in-law Mae makes such a wonderful turkey! We just loved it all!
We also finished Brinley's room this evening! I can't believe it's ready for her. The crib looks so pretty!
We have so very much to be thankful for this year......every day!

TA!!!!!!

Today at 6:11pm we received the call!!!!
We are going to China for Brinley!!!!

Praise God!!!! Our baby won't be waiting much longer!!!!!

We are leaving December 9!

GOTCHA DAY will be DECEMBER 12!
Coming home December 23!!!

HOME FOR CHRISTMAS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

9th Week Of Waiting

Today we have entered our 9th week since our dossier was logged-in in China. So far, I am keeping it together pretty well but seeing the latest pictures of Brinley just makes me even more eager to make this journey to bring her home and fill her life with love.

We still don't know if we will have her here with us for Christmas. We are still hoping and praying that we will. Somehow, it just won't seem right if our baby isn't here with us to celebrate this holy day.

We are going to paint Brice's room this week. Marty is planning on painting the ceiling tonight. Hopefully, we'll get more of it finished up and we can move him in there next week and then we'll be able to get started on Brinley's room. I think we have everything we need for her room except the paint and a new ceiling fan. I can't wait for everyone to see it! It is going to be so cute!!!

Not much longer, Brinley! We'll be there soon! Mommy and Daddy love you very much!!!

Why China? Why Brinley?

Our Adoption Story
November 05, 2005

So many people have asked us, "Why are you adopting from China?" The simple answer is, "Because that is where our daughter is."
To some, this may be enough of a response but to others, you may want to know our deep and true feelings so I would like to tell you so that maybe you can understand our hearts a little better.
One day I was watching Oprah. This isn't something I do everyday but for some reason, on this particular day, I was watching. They were discussing previous shows which had had an impact on people's lives. They talked about a video from National Geographic Explorer which was hosted by Lisa Ling, "The Lost Girls of China". There was a lady on the show who had seen this episode of Oprah and had decided to adopt a little girl from China. She later found out that the child she adopted, was featured on the show she'd watched.
I was amazed that these people loved these children so much that they'd never even met before. Surely, I could not love a child I'd only had a photo of for a few months. Surely, these must just be women who were desperate for children. My, oh my......how wrong could I be???
These children stayed on my mind. I could not stop thinking about them. All of these little girls in China. Millions of them. No families. Alone except for the other children with them and their caregivers.
I prayed, "Lord, why do I continuously think about these children?" We have four kids....two of them will be grown and on their own soon. Lord, are we supposed to adopt a child from China? Is that why they are a constant presence in my mind?"
As a child, I'd always thought of other children in orphanages and how sad they must be with no mom or dad or anyone to call family.
I decided to check into exactly what adopting from China involved. I got on the internet and I started reading. I read everything I could find. "Lord, is this what we are supposed to do?"
I talked to Marty about it after a few weeks of reading about it. He must have thought I'd lost my mind. All he could say was, "No, not now. We have enough to deal with. We don't need another child. It's just not in our budget." I asked him to pray about it and he said he would.
I continued to read about China adoptions. I joined an online group for people who were adopting from China or were thinking about it. Wow! Lots of people just like me.......driven by a mysterious hand to learn about these children.
I joined another group I'd heard wonderful things about. A group of people who were adopting through Children's House International or were interested in adopting. In all of my life, I'd never met such a wonderful group of people. Each and every one so caring and compassionate that it almost took my breath away. I read stories of people traveling to China to bring their children home......and all of these children were special. They were called "Special Needs" children or "Waiting" children. Some had cleft lip and palate, some had birthmarks, some had limb differences, some were born with heart problems, hepatitis B....all of them were 'special'.
Cute kids! Adorable little girls with piggy tails and boys with irresistible grins.....but obviously if this was for us, we'd want a 'healthy' girl.....AYAP (as young as possible). "Lord, am I on the right track?"
I continued talking to Marty and he continued to say "no....not now". I asked him every time to please pray about it and he assured me that he would.
Children's House International received a new list of 'special' children in January, 2005. As I looked at all of these beautiful children, my heart just melted when I saw the little one listed as "Leila". What a gorgeous child!!! She was born August 15, 2003. Hmmm.....not AYAP....but just to look at her, I knew I could love this baby! She had a birthmark above her left eye. This made her a "special needs" child in the eyes of the folks in charge of adoptions from China. I decided to talk to Marty about her. Nope. He wouldn't budge. Not an inch. I knew then that she wasn't the one for us.......and I also knew that I could fall in love with a child in a photograph. A wonderful person will soon be bringing the beautiful Leila home to be her daughter. Her name is Heather and she and I have become great email buddies through our love of Leila. Heather and I even share the same birthday. God is good.
I continued to pray that God would show me the path to take. "Lord, if I am just totally off base, please give me a sign." No signs that I could find ever showed up.
Months went by and I continued to chat with my friends in the internet groups about all of these children. I cheered as anyone found their child, finished their paperwork and finally brought their child home! "Lord, is this what I'm supposed to do? Am I just to be a support for these wonderful folks?".
As the months went by, I learned more and more about "special needs". Some of them seemed so scary! How could we handle something like this? Nope. I don't think I could do it. Obviously, these other parents have something I just don't have.
On April 20, 2005 Children's House got their newest list of children. List #11. I had requested from Stefani, their director of China adoptions that we be able to preview the children before the list was made public. Just maybe our child is there. All of them are special needs but maybe there will be something really simple that we can handle.
I sat alone in front of my computer and opened each file as soon as they were available. Every single child was adorable! Cute beyond belief!!! Hmmmmm....was our child there? The one listed as Hilari is mighty cute and she is listed with some orthopedic problems. Soooooo cute!!! I took a leap of faith and I called Stefani about her. Marty is out of town. Stefani puts Hilari's file "on hold" until I can talk to Marty about her.
I showed Marty her picture when he came home. He agreed that she was very cute and that her 'special need' did seem very manageable.......but "no.....not now." I was crushed. I just knew that Hilari was meant to be ours. Why couldn't Marty see it??? It broke my heart to let Stefani know that Hilari was not meant to be ours. My heart shattered when I saw that her file was no longer 'on hold'. It wasn't long before another family came forward and requested that Hilari be their daughter. I now knew that Marty was right. She wasn't our daughter.
I continued to pray about adoption. I begged the Lord to take the desire from me if it was not meant to be or if it was to be then please help Marty to have a change of heart.
One day Marty and I were talking about adoption......again. We talked about it frequently and he was learning more and more about it and showing genuine interest in it. He said, "If you can earn the first $1500 to get the adoption started, I'll know that it's a sign and we will adopt.....maybe in six months we'll look into it." I was ecstatic!!! Six months? That would be around October.......MY BIRTHDAY!!! What a gift it would be to find our child on one of these lists. Contentedly, I settled in for the wait till October and went about the task of earning the $1500 by selling comforters on eBay. Not only did I make that much, I made more. I was able to buy the groceries and the day to day needs of our children. Life was good! God was providing the way for us to look into adoption in October. We had our sign.
On June 5, 2005 I was sitting in church listening to our pastor's sermon. Suddenly a child from the Children's House International's list popped into my mind. Brynli.....she's cute! Why hasn't anyone decided to adopt her yet? I could love this child. (WHAT???? Who said that???? We're waiting till October. That's just the way it is!)
Brynli was stuck in my mind like glue. She was there and she wouldn't go away.
On June 8 Brynli was the "spotlight" child on the Children's House's internet group. She was placed there in the hopes that someone would find her and adopt her.
This is a portion of the post that was made by Stefani that day at 4:03pm.
"Okay, lets start our spotlight sessions with our little Brynli. She wasborn with what appears to be a degree III cleft lip and palate. The liphas been repaired but the palate has not. She is in the Guilin SWI inGuangxi province. She is now 22 months old. I'm going to paste her biohere again but anybody who feels like they can contributeinformation/advice on the need, her age, her SWI, etc. is certainly welcome to step in and share. Please others who have questions are alsowelcome to ask them too. We are very excited to start spotlighting andare happy to have Brynli kick off our care and share chat! Her pictures can be viewed at www.fotki.com/CHIWaitingkids and the password XXXXX.She seems like such a smiler! Her file is not currently being reviewed."
This was followed by her official biography info from China.
I was the first one to reply at 4:36pm.
"Doesn't she just have a smile that will melt your heart??? We werein church Sunday and her name and her little face all of a suddenpopped into my thoughts. I hope her family will find her soooon! I would love to know more about cleft lip and palate. EverythingI've read is so technical. I want to know about caring for thepalate and things like that. I'm sure others must be curious also.I'm so glad you are doing this, Stefani! I think it will educate a lot of us!Sharon"
All of this time my heart was pounding and all I could think was "Lord, is this our child?? Why is she ever-present in my mind?"
At 4:45pm I posted again.
"I was just wondering if we are allowed to know her Chinese name?Sharon"
Huh? Why did I ask that? What difference does that make? By this time I was in tears and I didn't know what to do. I went to our bedroom and I shut the door and I started praying. "Lord, if this is our child, how will I know? Lord, you know what is in my heart and Marty's heart. If this is our child then I need a sign that will absolutely slap me in the face.....one that I just can't deny."
I dried my tears and went back to the computer to see what anyone else might have said about Brynli.
At 4:52pm Stefani had replied,
"I can't give all of her name but I will give you part. It is YaYa."
I nearly fell over. My kids call me "YaYa"!
I sent the following email to Stefani:
"ARE YOU SERIOUS???????????? She has been on my mind lately. TodayI even prayed that if I was supposed to look into her info thatthere would be a sign that would absolutely slap me in the face. My kids call me 'YAYA'.When her name and face popped into my thoughts at church Iimmediately thought. I could love her!I am scared to even think about it. Our finances have turned aroundso much in the past two months that it is unreal. God has blessed us so much. I am going to talk to Marty about her tonight. I'll getthe dinosaur fax machine ready to use tomorrow so that you can faxher info to us.PRAY,PRAY, PRAY!!!!Sharon"
Stefani responded:
"Well, patpatpatpatpatpatpat, do you hear what sounds like face slappinghere? Hmmmmm, I just may! Sounds like maybe God is trying to tell yousomething because we had chosen to put Tate as the first spotlight child and at the last minute changed it to Brynli. God may be trying to tellyou something about this dear little YaYa.Pray, pray, pray is right on. I'm hoping I have to use that dinosaurfax again."
Marty came home just after this. When he walked in, he could see that I'd been crying. I told him what had happened. He said, "Well, what do you want to do?". I didn't know what to do and I just shrugged as the tears rolled down my face. Marty hugged me and said, "Have her information faxed to my office and we'll look at it."
I almost jumped up and down!!!!!
I emailed Stefani and gave her Marty's fax number. She responded with the following email:
"Could you two be part of a very special YaYa sisterhood? Looks like youhave been getting many little "road signs" along the way pointing to youthat maybe you should look a little differently at where you thought you should be going. Each program is wonderful and each child needs parentsso no matter which direction you go, its a good thing. But I amconfident little Miss YaYa would trail a lot of happiness home with her.You can see it in her eyes and in her smile. There has always beensomething twinkly about this little babe. I would love to meet her andgive her a big old squeeze. I'm going to send the fax tonight so it isthere when Marty goes into work. Not sleeping is a good thing. It will give you lots of time to think about the YaYa who will is just gettingup and starting her day now."
The following morning June 9 I sent this email to Stefani:
"Yes, I think she just may be our special girl! We have to take the boys to the eye doctor today and we will run by Marty's office to pick up the fax while we are in Columbia.
I didn't sleep very much last night and I did have a lot of time to think. Lots of good thoughts! :)
When I walked into our bedroom this morning after my shower, I found Marty looking at the book "Cool Names For Babies". LOL I think Daddy is getting more and more interested. :)
Time to get these boys ready! I will be in touch soooooon!!! Hopefully by this evening. If we decide that we want to bring her home, what is the next step? (If? Yeah, right! This is our girl!!! I just want to give Marty a chance to read over the 'official' file.)
Thank you so very much to you and Ginger! You were both so right about it all falling into place when the time is right. :)"
Stefani emailed back. This is a portion of that email:
"The next step is the very biggest. It is that you have seen yourdaughter's face in Brynli's eyes and soul and that you want to be theones that will feel the joy that YaYa has brought with her into the world. It is to decide that you will move heaven and earth to give herwhat every child should have the right to, to a family of their own.
Ginger and I will be leaving early tomorrow morning for the CHI campoutso if you decide tonight and let me know early tomorrow and I can sendyour packet out. If not we'll be back on Monday."
I responded with:
"Wonderful!!! You might as well get that packet ready because I'm sure I will be emailing you this evening to tell you that WE WANT YAYA!! :)
Our address is:
Marty & Sharon Millender
XXXXXXXX
I asked Marty if he found a name he liked in the book and he said, "Nah, I like the one she came with." ROFL Men! :)
I am on CLOUD NINE!!! We are off to pick up the fax!!!
Wow!!! Was the world this bright yesterday?????? Did every song on the radio have so much meaning????
LOL.........it's like being in love for the first time! :)"
Stefani's responding email:
"This is exactly the JOY I'm talking about. And no, it wasn't as brightyesterday because part of you was missing. When you find it you feel it.You could always names her Maya for My Ya."
That same day we took Brice and Keith to the eye doctor and we read over the fax while we ate lunch at Top China Buffet in Columbia. I knew in my heart that this was our girl.....and Marty was beginning to feel it, too.
I called Stefani that evening and gave her our big news "WE WANT YAYA!!!"
The following announcement was made to the Children's House International's group just a little while later:
"My, if we just knew how well spotlighting would work, we would havestarted this long ago! Brynli has her family! Her own, true blue,forever family. But this journey started long ago but many things had to fall into place for eyes to see clearly the face of their daughter.We have been aware of their struggles. It has been amazing to watch.We are SO HAPPY for this twinkler who I can just see carrying a pail and a bucket along the beachy shores, or running in fields of flowers. Toobad her family couldn't have joined us this year in Atlanta but we'll besure to want to see them next year. Our first Spotlight Child had the light directed right on her sweet spirit and what a treat for all of usto have a chance to feel it and watch it work its magic as her familyclearly saw her. We so delightedly invite her family to step forwardand I am certain when they announce shouts of JOY will be heard fromevery keyboard. You all are really going to like this unveiling."
At 10:07pm on June 9 I had the pleasure of announcing that WE are Brinley's family!!!
This is a portion of the post I made to all of my wonderful friends in the Children's House International group:
"Hello everyone from the Millender family! We are just tickled pink tolet all of you know that we are Brynli's forever family and we can notwait to make our way to China to bring her home!!! I have been a member of this board for several months and many of you know that Ihad a very reluctant husband. Well, time does change things and now weare going to be bringing this little sweet pea home!Brynli is going to be ours to love forever and we are all so excited!!!She will be living in a small town in the midlands of South Carolina.She'll have 3 older brothers. Josh is 20 and leaving for college inFlorida this fall. Keith is 11 and Brice is 7. Her big sister Kristenis 18 and she will be attending a local college and living at home. (Sissy wants to go shopping tomorrow for new clothes for Brynli! LOL)We have a big, happy family (most of the time! LOL). Our house is onthe edge of a big field so she will have plenty of room to run andplay. The boys have a huge tree house but I'm sure daddy will be building her her own special play house soon! We have a tire swing anda see-saw out under the trees behind the house. It is 10pm here andthe boys are out in the pool right now with their dad. Our petsinclude a rabbit, 4 dogs, a cat who thinks he owns us, a turtle and a cockateil.For a long time I have wanted to name the child we adopt "Julianna".However, I think I have been outvoted here in our home! Everyoneloves the name Brynli. So, we are thinking that her name will be Brinley Elizabeth WeiYa. We changed the spelling because it looksbetter with our last name.So, now the mystery has been solved and no one guessed! :)Let's go to China!!!!!!!!Sharondh Marty ds Josh (20)dd Kristen (aka: Lola 18)ds Keith (11)ds Brice (7)dd Brinley!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :) Doesn't that look great??????????"
This is the story of how our adoption journey began. It wasn't a desire to have a child together. It wasn't because it is "trendy". It wasn't because of an "empty nest".
It's because it is what we are supposed to do. It's because our daughter is in China and her name is YaYa.
~Sharon Millender
*Stefani Ellison's quotes have been used with her very gracious permission.

NEW PHOTOS!

What a wonderful surprise to receive these photos from another parent who was in Guilin last week when she adopted her daughter!
THANK YOU, DARLENE!!!

Look, y'all!!!! No pout on the princess this day! She is lovin' that lollipop!

Split pants and a diaper! You know she'll love these photos someday!!

Brinley's friend Gracie is sitting in the lady's lap. You can see Brinley peeking around from behind the lady.

Brinley is 27 months old today. We're still praying for a Christmas miracle that we'll have her home soon!

P.S. Yes, we found out yesterday that the little girl in lavendar is not Brinley. We thought she looked a bit smaller than what we were expecting and her hair seemed to have grown really fast since we received the last photos. Fortunately, we did find out who the little cutie in lavendar will be coming home to and they have the pictures to share with their friends and family now. :)

OFFICIAL LID!!!

We received an email yesterday from our agency. Our official LID is 9/14. That means that today we are at day #41 of waiting for our TA!!! We could have it within a few weeks!!!

We are so excited!

Thank you, Lord, for this wonderful news from afar!!!!

Friends

For all of our wonderful friends!

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To YaYa or Not To YaYa

For those of you who are unaware, my kids call me "YaYa". Marty and I have been married for about 2.5 years. When we got married, his son Keith wasn't sure what to call me. So, Lola told him that I'd said once upon a time that I'd like to be called "YaYa" when I have grandchildren. So, for the past 2.5 years, I have been called "YaYa" by Keith, usually by Brice and occaisionally by Josh and Lo.
Now we are adopting the lovely Miss Han Wei Ya. You'll never guess what her little nickname is in the orphanage! That's right! She is "YaYa"!!! So, now we have the quandry of wondering what Keith will now call me since everytime he yells out "YAYA!!!" Brinley will think that someone is calling her.
We do want to call her Brinley. (I think Lola is planning on calling her "Beaner" ever since I dreamed that everyone was calling her that! ugh!) We just hope she will adjust to hearing "YaYa", too.

Can We Go Now???

I feel like a child coming to the end of a long journey, "Are we there yet???"

Instead I feel like asking "Can we go now???"

Just really ready for Brinley to join our family. I've never held her......but I miss her.
Isn't that odd?

Maybe just a few more weeks......

Goodness knows, I have plenty to do to keep me busy! We're still doing our version of Trading Spaces around here with Brice moving into Josh's room and Brinley having Brice's former room. So much to do!!!

Finally feeling a bit more like Fall here in the South! HOORAY!!!!

Brinley's punkin'!

Our little pumpkin patch in front of our house! :)

Nursery Plans

There have been definite changes in our plans for Brinley's room. Before we even found Brinley, I bought a crib set that I just loved......and I still do......but it just doesn't seem 'right' for Brinley. Sooooooo, I am going to sell that set on eBay and her room is now going to be done in Raggedy Ann.
I have always loved Raggedy Ann and I hope that Brinley will, too. I've had the wallpaper border for quite a while and was going to use it in my sewing room but I think our daughter will enjoy it even more.
I've bought coordinating fabric that I can use for the curtains and the crib ruffle. I am so excited about this change in plans!

Someone sent this to me and I thought it was so cute!

Waiting on LID

We are "patiently" waiting on our LID (log-in date). Once we get this date we'll have a better idea of when we might be traveling. Cross your fingers and say a prayer that we got an early LID so that we can have Brinley home for Christmas!
I can't wait to make her smile!!! :)

26 months old

Another month has gone by......Brin is 26 months old now.

We'll be there soon, sweetie!